Don’t Be in a Cover Band

“You were born an original, don’t die a copy”- John Mason I never seem to fit. I feel like an odd-shaped puzzle piece looking for the puzzle where I belong.  I pride myself in being different from everyone else. But I’ve also feel lonely, misunderstood and like an outsider. At times that feeling drove me […]

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My Dad Never Quit!

“The Race is not given to the swift nor the strong but unto them that endure to the end.” Ecclesiastes 9:11 Today My Dad turns 80 and He never quit! I know enough about my Dad’s story to know He came to crossroads in His life when He could have quit. Quit on God. Quit on his marriage. […]

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New Every Morning

When my son was very young like 3 or 4 years old, He had a dream of heaven. In his dream He saw a river that ran through the center of heaven. He described the river as clear with multi-color reflections like a rainbow. He described the river as coming from under a throne. On […]

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Trading in my Instagram Life

How can people that look so OUTWARDLY AWESOME not be as awesome as they appear?  I “know” that this is true but I am sucked in again and again by the image people portray on social media as the reality of who they are, how great their relationships are and how much fun or impact […]

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Don’t Tell Me What, Show Me How

I was surrounded by born-again Christians at a retreat I somehow ended up at. I saw how deeply the friendship & love ran between these Jesus followers, so different than what was my ‘norm’. They didn’t care about my atheistic, black magic, God-hating, drug-infested, sin-wallowing background. They loved me without knowing anything about me. They […]

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A River of Love

I remember when I was just a boy; my father would take my friends and I fishing at The Broad River in Western NC.  Dad loved to catch Bass in the local rivers and always had colorful stories about his adventures with his brothers.  It was a boy’s dream.  I remember the first Bass I […]

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Stand! Don’t Grovel

I sinned. I don’t exactly remember what I did but I remember how I felt. Church was ending and they called us up front if we wanted to pray. I rushed to the front of the church, hit my knees and buried my face on the floor. I was groveling. I was sincere but I […]

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Small Ideas & Bored Men

One of my absolute favorite quotes by the founder of the Navigators Dawson Troutmen is “Men’s hearts are not set ablaze by small ideas.” I know in the deep wells of my soul this is true. Every time I hear the quote something deep in my gut says “YES!” Yet, we are surrounded by small […]

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Staying Spiritually Sharp in a Dull World

I didn’t realize how much I had forgotten. Kathy recommended I listen to a Heidi Baker podcast. She shared a scripture in the Podcast that i knew but had forgotten.  “For everything in the World… the boasting of what he has and does–comes not from the Father but from the world” (1 John 2:16) So straight […]

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Beauty is a ‘be’, not a ‘do’

“Mommy, what are you doing?” Our adorable preschool aged son often sat on the bathroom vanity, watching me, as I got ready for work each day. He attentively, and with great curiosity, watched as I went through each step of my daily routine: blowing my hair dry, patiently waiting on each curl of the curling […]

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Our Identity is our Weapon

After the Lord gave me a new vision (see my last blog), it was time to fight, make the right decisions, and create new habits to reprogram my mind. The battlefield is in your mind and the battle is for your heart. The process of healing takes time so don’t rush the process, allow the […]

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Who does God say I am?

On the podcast. I shared part of my story.  I couldn’t read, my dad hurt me big time, I became sexually addicted, my son was killed, I went through a divorce, I had thoughts that it’s not worth living, so all I saw was death in my life. I was living a life of quiet […]

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Adult Man or Little Son?

How could I be a ‘child’ and a ‘Man’ at the same time? This question haunted and perplexed me for weeks. To be a Man is to be strong, show perseverance, be independent, bold as a lion, unwavering in the face of pressure, an over comer, consider great & weighty matters, withstand great pain, a […]

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I’m Done: What to do when you are sick of your marriage

The sleepless nights, waiting for my husband to come home from fire calls…driving past the local dive in the afternoon and seeing his truck parked there…fighting about everything…I was just plain done. I was sick of our marriage. Surely, there had to be more to marriage than the cycle of disappointment, hurt, fighting, and making up. […]

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COURAGE

Loren Cunningham had the courage to walk away from what was good to pursue God’s best as a young man in his 20’s. He left the security of family traditions, his denominational heritage and an opportunity for a wealthy secure future to purse God’s dream over his life. Loren is my #1 hero in the […]

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I am Batman in a story-driven marriage

Character development and plot-driven stories are the best! What if I told you I fight fear and the things that ruin my marriage like Batman fights injustice in Gotham City, or like the Avengers in the Age of Ultron? To Men, that shouldn’t sound weird. It might sound childish to the Ladies. Bear with me. […]

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The Secret of Getting Men In Church and On Mission

I was jogging through our neighborhood asking myself the question, “What’s the deal with men and church?” I mean, it’s a real problem. Men are no longer going to church. Consider these stats: The typical congregation is almost 2/3 women. Only one out of six men attend church on a given Sunday. Nearly 25 percent of […]

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If going far Go together

“If you want to go quick, go alone. If you want to go far, go together”- African Proverb Have you ever seen the couple running? I know you have. They are both running but one is well ahead of the other. The lagger is huffing and probably did not want go on this “little jog” in the […]

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